All world one happy family.
Joy with our relationships
Sour relationships is often a cause of distress in our lives. Anger, annoyance, hatred of others robs us of the fun of living, making our life a misery.
If relationships are a problem, there are ways these can be improved to make our world a better place to live in.
Below is one of several ways by which relations may be improved.
One method advocated by some professionals in the field of relations relies on the assumption that all of one's relations are a reflection of the feelings that one has for one's own very self.
That is hard to understand, and even harder to accept as truth.
Be as it may, it may be worth a try, because there is nothing to be lost if, on trying out the method, there is no improvement in the relations. The trial will not make the relations any worse.
To Improve your Relations:
Please write down on a sheet of paper the questions:-
1. What is in the other person's behaviour which irritates, angers, hurts, annoys, insults is unsavoury to me, etc.?
2. What, as I think it, is the reason why that person is behaving in that way towards me?
3. If the other person was gentle enough to listen to me, what will I tell that person? What will I say is wrong with him/her?
This is serious stuff - we do want to live a life of joy and abundance.
Please write as detailed answers to these questions as you possibly can.
Having done that, the magic part begins.
Regard each answer given to the questions as if the answers are being told to your own self.
Thus, as an example, if you have said that you do not like your boss always being angry at you, consider the answer to question 1 from the view point, "I am always angry with myself."
And whatever you were thinking about in answer to question 2 is why you are angry with yourself.
Whatever you were to tell the boss in answer to question 3, is what you need to tell to yourself as to what you should do to stop being angry at yourself.
This is a silent exercise you can do on your own, and notice how your relations with others change.
The basis of improving relationships is to love your own self, including the your self with the faults and bad habits. That is not to accept those habits. But, in the very act of loving yourself, you overcome thoughts, feelings, habits that harm your own self.
Wishing you joy and abundance.
Shree-1
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