Improve Your Relationships by improving yourself

Hello! Welcome to "How Can I make It A better World?
All World One Happy Family


Regrettably the whole world is not one happy family.

Worse, very often one's own relations outside and inside one's family are not a very happy affair either.

When that is so, one's world needs being made better.

One method advocated by those who are professionals in that field relies on the assumption that all of one's relations are a reflection of one's own feelings that one has for one's own self.

That is hard to understand, and even harder to accept as truth.

Be as it may, it may be worth a try, because there is nothing to be lost if, on trying out the method, there is no improvement in the relations. The trial will not make the relations any worse.

To Improve your Relations:

Please write down on a sheet of paper the questions:-

1. What is in the other person's behaviour which irritates, angers, hurts, annoys, insults is unsavoury to me, etc.?

2. What, as I think it, is the reason why that person is behaving in that way towards me?

3. If the other person was gentle enough to listen to me, what will I tell that person? What is wrong with him/her?


This is serious stuff - we want to make our world a better place to be in.

Please write as detailed an answer to these questions as you can possibly make it.

Having done it, the magic part has to be done.


Regard each answer given to the questions as if the answers are being told to your own self.

Thus, as an example, if you have said that you do not like your Boss always being angry at you, consider the answer to question 1 from the view point, "I am always angry with myself." And whatever you were thinking about in answer to question 2 is why you are angry with yourself. What ever you were to tell the boss in answer to question 3, is what you need to tell to yourself as to what you should do to stop being angry at yourself.

I regret having to say that I have tried this for my own relations. I find the results give enough merit to this method that I am spending time reporting it here.

Wishing you all the best, Shree-1